The Selman Family Blog: The Proposal

Richard and I, from the start, did everything out of order and not traditionally either...

We had already decided to get married in August 2010.

Apparently, in the middle of the night during the late summer of 2010, I might have also accidentally asked Richard to marry me and he said yes. We had booked the restaurant of our choice in September 2010, Sun Sui Wah on Main Street in Vancouver, British Columbia.

I kind of already knew how my engagement ring was going to look like because Richard had asked me for my opinion and ring preferences. My preference was a Birk's Amorique Engagement Ring. The ring had a cushion cut diamond (similar to a princess cut) and a V (heart) setting. Richard customized my engagement ring using that as a base of the design.

Richard went to Kobe Pearl International, located on West Boulevard (off 41st Avenue) in Kerrisdale, Vancouver, British Columbia, to get my engagement ring made. The jewellery store belong to a long time family friend of my mother. It took a while for Richard to design my engagement ring to suit his taste. He had a lot to consider: the diamond cut, colour, clarity and carats; the setting, the band style and even the band material. He ended up choosing a princess cut E | VVS1 | >1K diamond mounted on a v-setting on a 19K white gold band.

I knew when Richard picked-up the engagement ring, though he would not confirm or deny it when I confronted him. My mother, she can't keep a secret very well, and I managed to trick her into admitting that he did pick it up. Richard wasn't that good at keeping a secret either. I tricked him into admitting it too. It wasn't such a big surprise anyways because he flashed the picture of the engagement ring at me a few times since he picked up the engagement ring. What a meanie! What a tease!

To bug Richard, I kept telling him to "just give me the damn rock"! It bugged him a lot! He said NO! He said he was going to prorpose anytime between now and June next year. Though I already had a feeling it will be before my 30th birthday, since he did ask when I had wanted to be proposed to and I had said since I can't be married before my 30th birthday, being proposed to before my 30th birthday is a great alternative. He denied it, said there's really no rush and can wait till next summer!

Around the time that Richard picked up the engagement ring, he had already made me save in my calendar a few events that we would be attending. Two (2) of those events were a Stephen Hackett party. One early in November for Stephen's birthday and one a weekend later on Bowen Island. I didn't think anything of it, since we've been spending a lot of time with Richard's friends on Bowen Island.

The week of the proposal, I had asked Richard if the party was still happening that weekend because Stephen went to Mexico with his family that week and I didn't think he'd be able to organize a party since he arrives either the day before or the day of the party. Let's admit it, I assumed Stephen would be enjoying tequilla every day on the beach! I suggested that I should call / email Marion Kehoe, Stephen's girlfriend, to see if I can lend her a hand, seeing she's probably organizing everything while Stephen was in Mexico. Richard told me not to worry about it. He said that Marion and a few of Stephen's friends, including himself, were helping out. I didn't know Richard was helping and I told him that I can help too...I know how much work is needed to put together a Murder Mystery party. I asked again if I could help Marion out, Richard said no. He said that it's a surprise for most of the attendees and no additional help is required! Fine, I left it at that, but I was starting to think something was a bit hinky!

Friday, November 12th...

At work, I was thinking about the upcoming weekend plans and mentioned to my co-workers that I think Richard was up to something this coming weekend. Something was a bit off...

That night at home, Richard had brought over the cooler full of food for the weekend on Bowen. Strangely enough, he wouldn't let me see what he packed. He even forbid me to open up the fridge for anything. He said it was a surprise that I was going to really like, so I'm not allowed to spoil it! I tried to peek...

All night I was trying to discuss with Richard about the possibility of me staying home for the weekend. I have been sick for the last few weeks and was still sick. Furthermore, I knew it was going to rain all weekend. I didn't think I would be up for a long weekend on the island in the rain. A weak attempt, but I had to try. Richard pointed out that we had already promised to attend the party and it won't be too bad, since we'll be in the Hackett cabin and I can cozy up in front of the fire place...

I still think something is hinky because I also realised that we were going to miss an Ice hockey game AND potentially miss watching the Canucks vs Maple Leafs game...

Saturday, November 13th...

I woke up that morning early to get my homework done before I had to quickly pack, last minute, so Richard and I can head over to the island. Richard woke up around noon and we went out to brunch before we raced for the ferry. We had Asian french toast and sandwiches at Honolulu Cafe on Main Street in Vancouver, British Columbia. The brunch took a bit longer than I expected. By the time we were on our way to the ferry, Richard was impatient with the traffic and drivers on the road. In the end, we didn't have enough time to catch the 3:30 pm ferry.

Richard and I headed to Horseshoe Bay Village to pick-up drinks from Starbucks. I ordered one of my favourites, Green Tea Frappaccino, and Richard order the seasonal special Salted Caramel Hot Chocolate. Instead of heading into the ferry line up for the 4:30 pm ferry, Richard headed to Whytecliff Park in West Vancouver to kill some time. I was confused, I asked him shouldn't we be heading to the ferry line up since it was only an hour out and we didn't want to miss the next one, especially since missing the first one frustrated him already. He said it was okay, he had to wait for Stephen to call him anyways, since we were suppose to meet up. So off to Whytecliff Park we went.

It was raining when we pulled into Whytecliff Park's parking lot. I asked Richard to park the car where there was a good view of Whyte Islet. Richard didn't. He said we were going to get out and walk down to the water. I voiced a concern since it was raining and I wasn't really in the mood for a walk in the rain...it would be cold. Richard said not to worry and let's go. So down to the water we went. I left my drink in the car, since it was COLD and I didn't want to juggle a cold drink in one hand and my umbrella in the other hand.

I told Richard as we were walking down that I didn't mind the rain at all. Having lived almost my whole life in Vancouver, it's nothing unusual. It was a lot better than snow :) We got down to the shore and watched scuba divers get ready for a dive. Richard asked me if I wanted to head over to Whyte Islet. I said no. I didn't think I would be able to make the trek over or the climb up, especially since it's raining and everything will be very slick. So instead, Richard suggested we hike up the other side, where there were stairs for me to walk up.

Whytecliff Park in West Vancouver, British Columbia has a special spot in both our hearts. It was where Richard took me for our second date, two days after our first date. It was after a BC Lions football game and after dinner at Cactus Club in North Vancouver, British Columbia. We spent another long night enjoying the night light view snuggled together on a bench that was situated on a remote alcove at the edge of the cliff face. Beats me how Richard found it in the pitch dark without a flashlight that night...hehehe

When we got to the top of the cliff face overlooking Whyte Islet, we just hung out there enjoying the view. We chatted about various sports activities I've done over the years. The scuba divers below were the inspiration that started that discussion. Richard asked if I considered taking up scuba diving again. I did consider it, but only if I can find a dive partner. The lack of a diver partner close to my age back then was one of the reasons why I stopped scuba diving.

We weren't alone on the cliff edge. One of the diver's friends was up on the cliff edge with us. He chatted with us for a while before taking off. During that time, I was asking Richard whether or not we should be heading to the ferry, or we'd miss the 4:30 pm ferry. Richard told me not to worry. He had to wait to hear back from Stephen.

Richard made a 'phone' call to Stephen's parents' place. He said Stephen would have crashed at his parents' place after the trip. No answer.

We waited a while longer. Richard kept checking his phone. He said Stephen was suppose to call him back very shortly.

We contiued to talk about how I've tried almost every activity at least once... Richard told me there was still one activity I haven't done. Oh? I asked him what.

"You haven't married me yet."

"Will you marry me?"

I was shocked. My mind was screaming, OMG! I was sobbing. I was speechless. I couldn't believe it was happening! I couldn't believe it was happening then and there! I couldn't move. I just kept starring him holding out the box with my engagement ring!

After all that ran through my head, I finally remembered to say "yes".

Poor Richard, waiting so patiently for my answer to his question...oops!

Richard took the ring out of the box and slipped the ring onto my ring finger...

Richard had the whole thing planned to the date (Saturday, November 13th, 2010) and even to the minute (4:20 PM)

After he proposed, we headed back to the car...

He told me I can start calling everyone...

I started calling everyone...

I wasn't paying attention to where we were heading after started calling everyone...

Grandfather (with mom and relatives at a house party)

Uncle Thanh

Father

Brother

Thao

Julia (took forever to connect with her)

Melanie

Lap & Leanna

Yuan & Jenny

Henry

Koklei

etc.

It took me a while before I started noticing that we were driving on the Sea to Sky Hwy. We were heading north to Whistler, British Columbia.

Richard drove us up to and checked us into Crystal Lodge in Whistler Upper Village.

Oh, Sasha was with us the entire time...which was why I really thought we were all heading to Bowen Island for the weekend. It didn't cross my mind we'd head anywhere else, since I wasn't thinking that we'd be checking into a dog friendly hotel in Whistler.

When we checked in and entered our 2 floor loft suite, Richard unpacked the cooler, but wouldn't let me help...apparently that was part of the surprise for the night.

After he unpacked, while I was still on the phone, he turned on the TV to catch the end of the Vancouver Canucks vs Toronto Maple Leafs game. It was an awesome day...and the night was even better...the Vancouver Canucks dominated the game and the Toronto Maple Leafs went up in flames!

Since it was pouring when he proposed to me on the cliffs of Whytecliff Park, he re-proposed at the hotel, this time getting down on one knee...so sweet...